Second Rule of Book Club is to not….

Lose confidence!

So the next book for the club has been chosen! This one I’m on the fence about. On one hand, I don’t want to read anything religious about loss or traumatic experiences. As someone who has been through serious ones, with my pregnancy losses, I try to steer clear of anything that is going to give me THE SOLUTION to all my woes. As if all of my emotions, thoughts and sufferings can be boxed up and solved with one well timed mantra.

On the other hand, I want to delve deep and see if it could really help me, you know? I could always use a confidence boost. As someone who went through the feelings of shame and feeling less than as a woman, I could definitely gain a bit of ‘I’m A Badass”. I could also get a different vibe from the book entirely. I want to see if there’s a possibility I could get some healing, some peace. Maybe someone else learned something I have yet to discover. I couldn’t turn away the chance that it might actually heal my soul.

The next book, for August, is From Chaos to Confidence by Dr. Joyvina Evans. Have you read this book? Did you like it? Hate it? Learn from it? Leave a comment below! If you haven’t, feel free to join us this month and in the end for the discussion.

 

from chaos to confidence
August 2018

Have you ever wondered why you had to experience traumatic difficulties in your life? Do you currently struggle to identify how you can bounce back from these unfortunate circumstances you were left to deal with? Do you wonder how you can obtain confidence and strength after facing difficulties?

Get ready to examine your life and learn to never be ashamed of your story, past hurts, and traumatic experiences, because God can use it to inspire others. Get ready to release shame from past hurts and mistakes, strengthen your confidence, and start accomplishing the will of God for your life

Book Club: First Meeting Woes

Hi all!

This was a tough one. I believe the first book club meeting always is. It’s often hard to get schedules on the same track and things on the right page for something that is so brand new. For us, we have such different genre preferences that a book club that is ‘fair’ will always ask for it’s members to be understanding, wanting to participate and willing to step outside of their comfort zones. Of course, despite these things being said in advance, you will always lose some one or ones.

Just think, some people aren’t willing to look outside of their own present wants and desires to be apart of something greater, something amazing that will benefit them greatly in the future. It’s not for everyone.

I’ve always loved being a part of an all women’s book club because I want to make more female friends. As we’ve seen, it’s hard to do that as an adult. Work, school, home; no matter your obstacle, I believe you should always take time out to do something you love to do and to find a platonic someone to do it with.

I need that. I am currently in school, striving to eventually get my master’s degree, revising my book to pitch later this month, beta reading, writing a piece for an anthology, working a new job and I’m also reading books for the other reviews I’m writing. Don’t forget to add on the fact that I just spent forever trying to find an apartment and finally we are moving in.

I need a break from life! Not only do I get to join a group that likes to read, I get to stop the craziness, grab a coffee and get to know people from different walks of life. I get to sit with like minded people and talk about books, authors, and our latest book mark finds. I love that! That’s why this means so much to me. It’s why I want it to work. If not, I’ll have to start all over.

If so…I’ll have to put out an ad “Nerd Friend Looking for Nerd Friend” and who knows what will come from that!

Good Readdance,
Jade

Book Club Reviews: Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng

Hi all!

We had our first book club meeting! It was great. I loved being able to grab a coffee, meet up with other readers and discuss things we all love. Here, you’ll see the difference between members. One, me, who disliked the book and one, the Chooser, who loved it.

I was not a fan of this book. There were too many triggers for me. It wasn’t just that. I also had issues with the plot structuring, the happenings of the actually story and many other things. That doesn’t mean there weren’t parts that I liked.

One of my favorite edited quotes from the book: “Everyone sees race, Lex…The only difference is who pretends not to.”- Moody, page 42.

To step away from any spoilers and to keep the eyes of fans from glazing over, I will just list my first and last impressions from notes I took while reading. First: boring, extraneous, unnecessary detailing, plot drug on, I just couldn’t get into it from the first 20 pages. Last: no sense of urgency, harrumph, did not want to finish.

Little Fires Everywhere
Now! From a book club member that loved the book: She wrote loads of notes and discussed many during the meeting. It was fantastic hearing if from the other side. That is what book clubs are about, right? Below are some fleating thoughts I gleaned from her notes and my responses to them. Enjoy!

Little Fires Everywhere….can add up to a big fire.

The book goes over the lack of parental support or understanding Judgey home environment.

Shaker Heights is no less racist than anyplace else. It only thinks it is. You can control diversity in society, but can you really change what is in people’s hearts? Can you? We try all the time but is it going to make a dent in divide? If it does, can we believe that it will last?

Unplanned pregnancy versus planned pregnancy does not define how wanted the baby is and you see one side of the difference in LFE. Some forget that just because you plan a child, does not mean that you want the child. Sadness is, that in LFE you find you might know a few people in this situation or that it may have been you. Everyone wants to be wanted. 

 

If you’ve read this book, liked it, disliked it, hated it or haven’t read it yet but plan to…let me know in the comments! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you have any book suggestions or any reviews you’d like to see here, let me know!

Happy Readdance,

Jade

 

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First Rule of Book Club Is…

Heya,
I’m so excited!!! There goes that word again.

So I need more friends. More friends that read, more friends of common interests, more female friends. My guy is great but there is just something about a genuine female friend that you can call your own. Not like a pet, but something akin to family. Something stronger than family.

So obviously…I created a book club. I posted in a few of the book groups I’m apart of on Facebook and several women answered. I’m so happy. I’m going to be reading books anyway so why not make a few friends while I’m at it?

Anyway, so…ever the planner (which, I’m not really but am I about this sort of stuff? idk, IDK!), I created a google folder with documents in it for rules and guidelines and book club stuffs. I love it! So our first official meeting is in August. We used a choosing method, where it rotates every month, and the first book and Chooser have already been selected!

For our first book, we are reading Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng. It sounds really interesting and is apparently very famous, but I hadn’t heard of it before now. The cover and synopsis are below.

I am adding a category to the books tab so that I can write posts about our club and all things book discussion! This will be great!

Good Readdance,
Jade

 

Little Fires Everywhere

In Shaker Heights, a placid, progressive suburb of Cleveland, everything is planned – from the layout of the winding roads, to the colors of the houses, to the successful lives its residents will go on to lead. And no one embodies this spirit more than Elena Richardson, whose guiding principle is playing by the rules.

Enter Mia Warren – an enigmatic artist and single mother – who arrives in this idyllic bubble with her teenaged daughter Pearl, and rents a house from the Richardsons. Soon Mia and Pearl become more than tenants: all four Richardson children are drawn to the mother-daughter pair. But Mia carries with her a mysterious past and a disregard for the status quo that threatens to upend this carefully ordered community.

When old family friends of the Richardsons attempt to adopt a Chinese-American baby, a custody battle erupts that dramatically divides the town–and puts Mia and Elena on opposing sides.  Suspicious of Mia and her motives, Elena is determined to uncover the secrets in Mia’s past. But her obsession will come at unexpected and devastating costs.

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