An Angel Mom’s Perspective

Heya,

One of the hardest things that I dealt with after both of my loses was not really knowing where to turn or what to do next. I knew that there wasn’t a one size fits all rule on healing or dealing but I just wanted to read something from another angel mom’s perspective. I looked all over and just couldn’t find anything that fit me. I decided to write my own story, in my own voice, about my experience; hoping to reach others who felt the same.

I’m writing a book from an angel mom’s perspective. There will be a section for stories, quotes, tips, or just inspiring thoughts. I am requesting contributions from angel moms of any age, from any region and with experience anywhere from early miscarriage to infant loss. It can be long, short or just a few words of encouragement.

If you would like to contribute, please send your story to the email address listed below.

If you would like to remain anonymous please make sure to write that in your email, or do not include your personal information.

If not, just provide a first name, age or region (any of the above).

If you know anyone who would like to contribute, please share this information!

The Mothers of Angels @ gmail.com
TheMothersofAngels@gmail.com

Happy Reading!

For the Love of Reading!

 

My life could be summed up by saying I spend a lot of my free time reading. Well, that part was true up until my guy, Tony, and I turned our second bedroom into a TV room. Technically, it could also be considered my library as there are books on every surface, even a rack designed for shoes that I have filled with hardbacks. They are stacked in rows, they are stacked two books deep on the shelves, there is even a book tree (all hail Christmas…that I don’t celebrate). In August, when we made the switch, I was very excited. Now I have a room specifically meant for reading and relaxing! It basically became into the room where countless hours of Netflix and Hulu turned me away from my love of reading.

One of my Cherchez La Vie goals is to get back into reading. It has been a past time that I’ve enjoyed since I was a young child and how dare I let it fall behind like this? I am also a writer, obviously, and after many years of being away, I decided to do National Novel Writing Month this past year. I knew that I was easily distracted by all the reading and the TV so I decided to put it on hold until after I hit my 50k words. It worked! Up until the end I was able to keep up my goal of 2k a day and I actually have a large chunk of a really great novel completed.

This was not so good for my reading. Books ‘sounded’ good but I hadn’t been able to pick one up and actively start reading since before November. It sort of depressed me a little, to be honest. I spent most of December trying to figure out what I wanted to read first. I went to the library and picked up books, I went online and had books delivered to my house, I even downloaded some onto my kindle and yet…nothing was good enough. I, of course, filled that time with any TV show I could find that was romantic, reality TV shows where I could scream at the screen, shows that had some sort of crime/cop theme or sci-fi outlet and it was glorious for a while.

Why did I think this would make me want to read again? 

Ah, so Cherchez La Vie goals. I decided, In 2018 I’m going to get back into the flow of reading. I picked up books on writing, I picked up some classics writers (you know, Chekhov, Balzac, Steinbeck, Faulkner), I picked up mysteries and romances. I also have my book tree that is only comprised of TBR (to be read, for the noobs) books.

Now, I was never really a fan of Goodreads. I do have a profile but I never consistently used it. I figured giving it one more chance might help me with my reading problem. I can keep track of the books that I read and stay away from all the other nonsense on the site. I set my 2018 Reading Challenge goal to 100 books. I am going to start with the dozen or so library books that I already have and then delve deep into the hundreds of TBR  books currently sitting in my living room.

I know, I know. If you haven’t read them by now, do you really think you will actually read them? Yes, Yes I do. I just have to choose the order wisely. That and I plan to actually get rid of the ones I know I will never read, GASP! But these are the ones I’ve had for years and still haven’t cracked the first page since I bought them. They have to go.

Anyway, I thought this plan would work and Lo and Behold! It’s only the 3rd and I’ve already read started and finished a few books. I plan to write reviews on them and hopefully, just hopefully, this is the start of my reading comeback.

 

Happy Reading.

 

 

 

P.S. Here are a few shows that usurped my time in 2017:

Blackish, Travelers, CSI Miami, NCIS, Chicago Med, Project Runway, Hells Kitchen, Royal Pains, Numb3rs, Medium, Blindspot, KC Undercover, MasterChef, SYTYCD, Stitchers, UnReal, Pitch, Cardinal, Rizzoli and Isles, Rosewood, Roswell, Bones, Castle, Timeless, Drop Dead, Diva

There are so many more but now my brain hurts. See ya.

 

Long Little While

You’d be surprised how much you missed something when you’ve been away for a while. I talked to someone recently about my love of reading and they mentioned how I should write reviews. I thought to myself ‘I do!’ but I knew that I hadn’t been consistent with writing them. I don’t think there is any real science behind it, I just think that my love for reading has suddenly outweighed my love for writing reviews.

Don’t get me wrong! I love love love to review novels but I just get so caught up in the stories that I end up reading the next novel and not writing the review. I have sooooo many book reviews to write. I’ve at least read 4 books a week for the last month and a half. Each of them will be getting a review, it’s just a matter of time.

I look forward to the long nights until I get them all done and I hope that you enjoy them.

I love feedback guys! If you hate my reviews, let me know! If you love my reviews, let me know! If you have read the book before, please…let me know and tell me how you felt about it!

 

Jade

Taking A Break From Social Media

So I’ve discovered that the hardest thing to do is find time between work, school, luxury and hobbies. It’s hard because now there are so many other things taking up our time and mind. I’ve seen so many studies, and I wont go into the gory details, about how much time we, as humans, spend on our phones. It doesn’t only include phones though! Many people like to lift their noses and say “Well, I don’t spend all day on my phone!” or “I put my phone down during dinner.” It’s not just that. There are TV’s, Mac/laptops, tablets, IPads and now even watches that take away from our quality time with each other.

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I am no different. I spend a lot of my time surfing the internet, trudging through Facebook or taking selfies for my Instagram or Snapchat accounts (those to be listed below!). After seeing a post, that was completely ridiculous, on FB I actually sat and thought about the time that I spend using these medias. Then, after spending a few days reading a book because I was so distracted, I decided to take a break. I need to get more reading done, so I can get more reviews done! Yay (aren’t you excited!?)!! I want to watch more movies and tv shows. I want to take longer walks without checking my phone as soon as I get home to see if anyone liked a status. I also want to find my center and start doing yoga more. I definitely used to do it a lot but have seriously been slacking on that front!

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From 4/24/2017 until 5/24/2017 I am doing, what I call, the Break Free From Media experiment (#BreakFreeFromMedia or #BFFM!). You may wonder why it’s an experiment or why it seems like a big deal but it truly is for me! After moving to my area just over a year ago I still feel like I haven’t completely incorporated myself into the “scene”. Using social media is definitely a way I bridge that gap.

I will only be using this site (as it’s my review blog and not what I would call social media…weird I know) and my professional Instagram page (which is obviously for professional purposes only). You guys should make this move with me!! Would you take a break from your social media? Or do you believe you can’t live without it? Let me know what you think!

Jade

P.S. My anniversary with my guys is coming up soon…boy am I excited!

Links are also on the side of the screen 🙂

Instagram– JadeElyzabethJ

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Love this! : 15 Times We’ve Cheered For The Bad Guys In Movies

It’s good to be bad. Villains are always the most interesting characters, because they lack a moral compass and base their decisions often on emotion rather than rational thought. They’re fun, exciting, and unpredictable, whereas heroes tend to be bland and generic. It’s because of this dynamic that fans often like the bad guy more than […]

via 3Novices : 15 Times We Cheered For The Bad Guy In Movies — threenovices

Coffee shops: Milan and Liverpool

I just found this blog and I think it’s absolutely riveting! Check out this project and let me know what you think!?

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This small scale project offers a comparison of coffee shops in neighbourhoods in Milan (Italy) and Liverpool (UK) by the photographers Matteo Ceschi and John Meehan. From Matteo Milanese bar/caffè…

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Source: Coffee shops: Milan and Liverpool

New Friends! Thanks Bumble!

I am definitely in need of new friends. I moved to a  new city and state a little over a year ago and with being in school, work and my guy I haven’t really had any time to go out and make actual friends. Not only that but initially, face to face, I’m very shy. So it’s been a hard time to really open up to new people in a new place and make great connections. I am definitely one of those people who at first is very shy or introverted but once I get to know someone I really open up, talk nonstop and relax.

Fortunately for others like me, the app system I’ve been waiting for has arrived! For the longest of times, I used to joke with old friends saying what if there was an app that would kind of be like Tinder (whatever dating website was avaialble at the time) but it would just be for making friends.

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Bumble has made this happen. Changing your profile over from the dating format to the BFF format allows you to see women in your area that have similar interests to you. You can chat with them and then go out for drinks, coffee or catch a movie. It’s perfect! Below are a few articles that were written up on the app and it’s new adventure!

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I’ve already talked to so many cool people and I am definitely open to meeting and finding my new bestfriend! I even met another writer! We are going to meet up for a writing session! I’m so excited, haven’t done anything like that since I was back home!

Check it out for your area! Tell me if you have any luck! 🙂 So excited!

Jade

 

Bumble launches BFF, a feature to find new friends

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/bff-bumble_us_56e033d8e4b0b25c91803919

Reading Anticipation

I did it!!!

I finally got the new book by Lynsay Sands, Runaway Vampire. I’m so excited. I started reading it last night and am already about 150 pages in. I am still going to be reading the other books that I’m planning to review I just…have…to…read…now!

Do you ever get that anxiety when you’re about to read a new book that you’ve waited so long for. It’s like…will it be good, will it be bad? FREAK OUT MODE!!!! I have, especially if I’ve read another book by the same author that I didnt like as much.

I love when the new book sneaks up on me though. I am not really fond of surprises (they embarrass me lol) but when I’m walking through the book store, Walmart or Publx and suddenly there, on the shelf, a new novel awaits. Yes!! As you can tell, finding new books makes me ecstatic and mushy! I wont give anything away but let’s say that I’m enjoying what I’ve read so far.

Good Readance

Jade

Just A Dedicated Reader

Sometimes I find that life takes a toll on me. My soul and heart feel downtrodden and I can’t climb out of the rut I’m in. It’s a never ending cycle of unexpected experiences, good or bad, that fill your existence with doubt, fear and excitement. While to some this is welcoming and new. It’s like with everyday that goes by you could be opening a new door to a fork in the road. To others it’s terrifying, like you never know when to hold on or when to let go. You never know if this is it; if this will be the day that every moment of planning, every night of staying up late or every sacrifice you made will begin circling the drain.

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So….I do what any respectable woman would do and I climb down further, deep deep down, using my hands as claws and hooks to push me further into a book. I pull out some dusty novel that I enjoyed years ago, one that’s been pushed back and scrunched up and curl up to cry. Fortunately, though, this can happen at any time, for any reason. It doesn’t always start as something bad.

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Sometimes, I have a long day…good…but long day in school, work, out paying bills or shopping for groceries. I just want to lay in bed, not do anything  and read a good story. I don’t want to toot my own horn and say that I’m a fast reader or anything…I would just say that I’m a dedicated reader. As soon as I find something that I really love, from the first few pages, I sit down and stay rooted to the story. The edge of the bed, the toilet, cooking asparagus, running out to the car, checking the mail; anywhere is a good place to continue reading a book. I’ve, on many occasion, had to stop myself from walking into a pole, a person, into a hole or even a wall because I was too busy reading.

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Now, yes, people like to hide the fact that they are avid readers (for some reason that is beyond me) but there are a lot of good reasons why we read. The following is a list of pros we get out of reading that I gleaned from a website that I cited at the bottom. I was looking for some of the pros just on my own and figured I’d share with my fellow readers. To go further in-depth check out that link!

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  1. Mental Stimulation
  2. Stress Reduction
  3. Knowledge
  4. Vocabulary Expansion (one of my favs!)
  5. Memory Improvement
  6. Stronger Analytical Thinking Skills
  7. Improved Focus and Concentration
  8. Better Writing Skills (another one of my favs!)
  9. Tranquility (umm…yes!)
  10. Free Entertainment (My fav!!)

Good Readance!

Jade Elyzabeth

 

cited:

winter-hebert, lana (n.d.) on LifeHack.org Retrieved from
10 Benefits; Why You Should Read Everyday